hwcontext_vaapi: Add driver quirks to the hwdevice

The driver being used is detected inside av_hwdevice_ctx_init() and
the quirks field then set from a table of known device.  If this
behaviour is unwanted, the user can also set the quirks field
manually.

Also adds the Intel i965 driver quirk (it does not destroy parameter
buffers used in a call to vaRenderPicture()) and detects that driver
to set it.